shoe wrote:

onetruetrash wrote:Regarding the "Dan is a perfectionist", I really want Dan to see that people just want to see him. I seriously want him to read these discussions.

Sometimes I think that it would be helpful for Dan and Phil to read the discussion that happens here immediately after they upload a video, to get some form of feedback that isn't inarticulate screeching, which is all I've ever seen in dapg comments.

That said, I wouldn't want them reading idb all the time, and I definitely don't think it would be helpful for Dan to read this particular discussion. A load of total strangers discussing his issues with perfectionism, and in all probability at lest partially misinterpreting them? But also in some cases touching on things which are actual deep insecurities, and then jumping to some conclusion which is incorrect, but close enough to the truth to make him question himself? No. Not helpful in the slightest. An external perspective on your mental state can be helpful, but it needs to be sensitively given and properly informed. Therapists are great for that. Forums filled with untrained strangers are not.

(Dan, if you are lurking, I'm sorry. go away. you don't need to read this. you really don't. we're not even a representative sample of your audience. If you want to see what we say about your videos, I'm flattered, but please only stay for that. If you can't leave afterwards, and are lurking enough that you catch discussions like these, that probably isn't healthy. but I acknowledge that I don't know you, and I don't know what's best for you.)

SquishPhan wrote:

I'm confused.

MaggieW wrote:I kind of understand Dans attitude towards his own videos. I don't upload videos to youtube but I like creative writing and I also tend to be harsh on myself. Like, over analyzing everything I do, and always feeling that my stories are not what I expected them to be... that lead me to procastination because I end up with so much anxiety over something that I should be enjoying. I don't know if Dan feels the same way but if he does I can totally understand his behaviour.

It's not something easy to let go, I wish it was as easy as saying "I'm just going to relax and do the best I can do" because you end up trapped in your own thoughts and judgement

Also, I'm starting to see a change in Dan. Like, he seems more confident with himself (dressing the way he wants, even do things that are not conventional to boys like wearing nail polish) so I really wish that he can overcome whatever is in his mind and be more comfortable with himself when it comes to his videos. I think we can all agree that he is a talented young man and we enjoy his content, and I don't think the phandom will judge him if he does more relaxed content that doesn't necessary is up to his ~standards~. Idk, if he is happy with his content I will be happy for him, so if being this judgmental is bad for him I wish he can overcome that in the future.

SquishPhan wrote:

I'm confused.

Moonbeamsonthepath wrote:

SquishPhan wrote:

I'm confused.

Oooh, maybe he made his own quiz about the Phandom?

No idea though, I wish he'd hurry up and upload it...

shoe wrote:

onetruetrash wrote:Regarding the "Dan is a perfectionist", I really want Dan to see that people just want to see him. I seriously want him to read these discussions.

Sometimes I think that it would be helpful for Dan and Phil to read the discussion that happens here immediately after they upload a video, to get some form of feedback that isn't inarticulate screeching, which is all I've ever seen in dapg comments.

That said, I wouldn't want them reading idb all the time, and I definitely don't think it would be helpful for Dan to read this particular discussion. A load of total strangers discussing his issues with perfectionism, and in all probability at lest partially misinterpreting them? But also in some cases touching on things which are actual deep insecurities, and then jumping to some conclusion which is incorrect, but close enough to the truth to make him question himself? No. Not helpful in the slightest. An external perspective on your mental state can be helpful, but it needs to be sensitively given and properly informed. Therapists are great for that. Forums filled with untrained strangers are not.

(Dan, if you are lurking, I'm sorry. go away. you don't need to read this. you really don't. we're not even a representative sample of your audience. If you want to see what we say about your videos, I'm flattered, but please only stay for that. If you can't leave afterwards, and are lurking enough that you catch discussions like these, that probably isn't healthy. but I acknowledge that I don't know you, and I don't know what's best for you.)