gohomohowell wrote: Thu Aug 31, 2017 3:48 pm
Firstly, I have no interest in conducting research and I don't see how you ever got that impression. This is all in good fun and I'm not even judging anyone?! Not everything is so serious, I was only teasing. I don't know why you're so defensive either, when I've said time and time again how I like this forum + other people have expressed the same sentiment about there being something akin to a hivemind on here multiple times.
I also thought it looked like you were doing a quick round-up of answers to form a conclusion. It didn't look serious, but the "honesty honesty" bit did sound finger-wagging in a jokey way. If it read differently to someone and they felt defensive, then the reasons they gave are why. I don't think there's a hivemind, I think there might be a few things behind people seeming to agree a lot on some things, though I'm sure I see someone chiming in with quite a different opinion quite often each time there's a discussion. I think some of it might be keeping the peace e.g. agreeing to disagree, or just staying quiet for fear of upsetting people. Also once more opinions have been shared, people see other points of view they hadn't considered before and maybe sometimes end up changing their mind.
gohomohowell wrote: Thu Aug 31, 2017 3:48 pm
And I laughed because that's what you do when people are being rude and you don't want to give into them. You made an unnecessarily rude comment about me just giving them weird names for fun, which is what
everyone else does on this forum. I mean, sorry, my inoffensive humour made you 'cringe', does that mean you have to give this uber serious opinion about it? Especially when everyone is enjoying the questions asked which makes it look like you're just being a bit petty.
EDIT: No more questions from me then, I always upset people on here
I thought LtrllySusan had a point and made it with no rudeness at all; she said she wasn't comfortable. Laughing at or teasing someone isn't going to just be shaken off by everyone. Any of us is allowed to cringe at anything, putting it in quotation marks just makes it look like their opinion isn't considered real. Tone of voice is huge in writing online which is why I often overuse emojis, but we're allowed to be serious. Someone corrected a thing I said on Twitter (I'd purposely left out what she said, trying to be subtle), and finished with "thanx bai" and that dismissal irritated me no end.
I find all the names hilarious, though so many of them makes posts a little harder to read.
Questions don't upset people, though tbh I'm less interested in ship and sexuality discussion so I scroll past a lot of it and give a shorter answer. Arguments can happen without needing to stop talking. I get the feeling, though, I rarely add a controversial opinion cos then my anxiety tends to rise until I see what the response is like, f-ing life-ruining bastard (I hope soon that being an adult will indeed be an improvement on being younger, it's been a f-ing mess far too often. I identified with what someone said about Phil having had a smoother time in life by seeming calmer about everything, though again we don't see everything so who really knows).
Also, while I can still edit, thanks to everyone for your thoughts on misogyny and homophobia, that was very interesting. It reminded me of the band Take That. These days their fanbase is mostly the women who once were teens, I can see Deps taking their fanbase with them like that too and leaving younger new performers (YouTubers, whichever) to gain new young fans. To an extent that's already happening.